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Last week I answered a few questions people regularly ask when it comes to spanking. This week I'll answer a few more. No sense in a lengthy introduction. Let's get right to it.
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My wife gets really scared before a spanking and has a hard time cooperating. What do I do?
First thing is first - you need to understand why she's acting the way she is. It's one of three reasons: 1) she disagrees with the reason she's getting spanked; 2) she's trying to avoid or get out of being spanked; or 3) she isn't quite understanding the dynamic of a Domestic Discipline marriage/relationship and is having a hard time accepting her part of it.
If her poor behavior before a spanking is a one time thing (meaning generally she's cooperative, just not this time around), she likely disagrees with why she's getting spanked. If this is the case, it's important to hear her out and listen to her side of the story. In this situation I recommend having a calm talk with the wife about why she feels the way she does, and why she doesn't see her behavior (the reason for the spanking) as a spankable offense. Discuss the entire situation and come to some sort of agreement on the punishment. Don't let your wife "convince" you or "persuade" you into not spanking her, but if she has a valid point and gives a legit reason for a lighter punishment, then so be it. Use your better judgment and be fair. There's nothing wrong with that.
If your wife is throwing a fit, storming out of the room, slamming doors, yelling, and generally acting like a child prior to a spanking, then she's trying to avoid or get out of the spanking. There really is no excuse for this kind of behavior. In an instance such as this, I would recommend having your wife spend some time alone in the bedroom until she's ready to handle the situation like an adult. If this is a persistent problem, rather than get angry and increasing the punishment, I would recommend you sit down with the wife on the bed and comfort her BEFORE the spanking. Often times when the husband is understanding and loving, the wife will calm down and realize she can handle her punishment. Hold her, reassure her, and calm her down before the punishment. Let her know things will be alright, and she will be alright as well once the punishment is over.
If the wife just isn't understanding the dynamic of a Domestic Discipline marriage/relationship and refuses to cooperate on a regular basis, I'd advise you to seek the counsel of a professional. An ongoing, persistent lack of cooperation from the wife is, in my opinion, the ultimate level of disrespect. At that point, it's time for a professional psychologist/DD counselor to help you both.
My wife has hidden/thrown away our implement. Now what do I do?
This is more common than I thought. This happens a lot, and it's a very serious problem. There are three issues within this act, and all of them need to be handled individually. Generally speaking, the wife doesn't know what she's gotten herself into when she does this. Wives, if you're reading this, throwing away the implement is a really really bad idea, and here's why:
The first problem is the disrespect factor. Throwing away or hiding the implement isn't "accidentally" done. This is premeditated, deliberate disrespect which is a major, major problem. I recommend spanking for the disrespect, and since the primary implement is gone, you're going to have to use something else. A hairbrush works well (a wooden one, not a plastic one), as does a wooden spoon. For more experienced couples, a belt would be an option as well. The extent of the spanking is ultimately up to the husband, but for deliberate disrespect I recommend it be a fairly serious spanking.
The second problem is the unnecessary financial factor. You're going to have to buy a new implement (if she threw it away) which is a complete waste of money. There was nothing wrong with the implement to begin with, and now it's thrown away. For this I recommend telling your wife the new implement cost $XX.XX amount of dollars, and she now cannot do something that cost the same amount of money. For instance, if she threw away a $15 wooden paddle, then the next time she wants to go see a movie with her friends, she can't go. A $15 paddle and a night at the movies roughly cost the same amount of money. The idea is to get her to think, "Wow, if I hadn't thrown away that implement, I could have went out with my friends." It isn't so much about the monetary value, it's about the fact that the money spent on a new implement could have went to something else.
The third problem is the act itself of throwing away the implement. I would recommend spanking for this as well, and I would recommend spanking as soon as the new implement arrives.
In addition to these punishments, I recommend giving a fairly stern lecture to the wife to make it clear this cannot happen again. Hopefully the wife will understands that hiding/throwing away the implement is a terrible idea, because it is.
How long does the pain last after a spanking?
This is a difficult question to answer since there are so many variables within a spanking (over or under the clothes, the number of strikes, which implement is used, etc.). All of these factors contribute to the extent and intensity of the pain experienced afterwards.
After a beginner level spanking, the buttocks should be a pinkish color and the intense pain should last anywhere from 15-30 minutes immediately afterwards, depending on the factors listed above and the pain threshold of the wife. After that initial intense pain period, the wife generally experiences soreness/uncomfortableness for 2-3 hours if the spanking was done correctly.
After an intermediate level spanking, the buttocks should be red, and the intense pain generally lasts anywhere from 30-45 minutes, depending on all the factors above. After the initial intense pain period, the wife generally experiences soreness/uncomfortableness for 4-5 hours if the spanking was done correctly.
After an advanced level spanking, the buttocks is a very bright red, and the intense pain generally lasts anywhere from 40-60 minutes, depending on all the factors above. After the initial intense pain period, the wife generally experiences soreness/uncomfortableness for 8-12 hours if the spanking was done correctly.
I apologize for so many generalities within the answer to that question, but it truly depends on a lot of different factors when it comes to how the spanking was conducted. This should give you an idea though.
I know there are a lot of questions to address when it comes to spanking. There is just so much that goes into a spanking, how it should be done, what to expect, etc. I understand you may have other questions, so please feel free to ask them in the comments.