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At the beginning of each month, I'm going to challenge you and your spouse with an important marital exercise. These exercises are to help you both grow as a couple, and to help you understand one another. It's important to strengthen the foundation of your relationship and express how you feel about being in a Domestic Discipline marriage/relationship going forward. This is the psychology part of me shining though. :)
MAY COUPLES CHALLENGE
Create a Rules List for the household consisting of at LEAST 20 rules and expectations. Discuss each rule in great detail with your spouse. Sit down together and write out why each rule is important, what the expectations of each rule are, and what the consequence/punishment will be if the rule is broken.
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There's no better place to start than outlining the rules and expectations of the household. It's important to define the rules and expectations of the household so both of you are on the same page. Communication is important in any marriage/relationship, and this exercise will certainly enhance that aspect of yours.
I'll get you started with a couple of examples that I feel should be in every marriage/relationship. Ultimately it's up to you and your spouse as to what rules you want to include in your marriage/relationship and household, but here are a couple that I feel are important.
- No lying or otherwise being deceitful to one another in any way, for any reason. Trust is the most important building block of any relationship. Without trust, the foundation of your marriage/relationship will begin to crack and ultimately crumble. Always be honest with one another, even when the truth is difficult to share and accept. Nothing positive comes out of lying, and lies will always catch up to the marriage/relationship in one form or another, and negatively impact it. Lying is a serious enough offense that a spanking should be given if this rule is broken.
- Any purchase of $XX.XX (amount to be determined by the husband or head of the household) should be cleared by your spouse first. Outside of infidelity, there may not be a more devastating problem within a marriage than excessive spending. Excessive spending can be absolutely catastrophic to a marriage/relationship. Always discuss major purchases with your spouse BEFORE you buy. Plan shopping trips and set a budget. The financial future of your marriage and family depends on it. Any impulsive excessive spending should result in a spanking. It's a much too serious of an offense to do anything less than spanking as the punishment if this rule is broken.