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Perhaps the most basic and common punishment within a Domestic Discipline marriage is removing privileges. Some husbands (or head of households) may do this, all the while not intentionally practicing a form of Domestic Discipline. I've talked to many couples that swear they would never practice Domestic Discipline within their marriage, yet they punish their spouse by taking credit cards or some other privilege away. I
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This punishment is often used in conjunction with another. For example - a common problem many wives struggle with is excessive spending. Excessive spending is a spankable offense just for the act alone, but it's also a good idea for the husband to take the credit/debit cards away from his wife for a period of time until she can display some form of financial responsibility. A mistake of that magnitude - a mistake that can destroy a marriage - often requires more than just a spanking alone. Sadly, the fate of the marriage depends on getting something like that corrected, so it's the husband's responsibility to get the problem corrected as quickly as possible. Ultimately the extent of the punishment is determined by the husband (or head of the household).
Some privileges that can be removed include, but are not necessarily limited to, the following:
- Credit Card Privileges
- Driving Privileges
- "Going out with friends" Privileges
- Computer Privileges
- Television Privileges
- Phone Privileges
- Cosmetic Privileges
The length of time these privileges are to be removed is determined by the husband (or head of the household). It's a good idea to have a starting point (for instance, a day or a week) and adjust the length of time according to how the wife handles the punishment. If she uses the privilege when she isn't supposed to, add another hour/day or two on to the duration of the punishment. If she handles it well and doesn't use the privilege when she isn't supposed to, or if she shows remorse for her actions, then decrease the duration of the punishment by an hour/day or two. It's all give and take. The husband should always be fair, and should always reinforce positive behavior from his wife.
Removing privileges is the easiest and quickest way to discipline your spouse. It's generally used when the privilege is being misused or abused, but it can also be a punishment for specific behaviors. It can be used as motivation as well. For example, "Before I left for work you said you'd get all the laundry done, but it sounds like you've watched TV all day instead. No more TV until the laundry is finished. It's up to you as to when you get your TV privilege back." That sort of thing.
I think that covers it. Feel free to ask any questions you may have in the comments.