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15 comments:
Is regular over the bed good for belt usage or
Is it better to prop on pillow?
@Anonymous - It's important that the wife be comfortable anytime a spanking is conducted, so I recommend a pillow be used for support each time in this position. You shouldn't have any problems spanking with a belt in this position, regardless of whether or not a pillow is used. Whether or not a pillow is used is determined by the HoH, but it shouldn't make much difference as to whether or not a pillow is used as far as getting the desired results go.
Hope this helps!
-- Clint
I can do the on the couch position. That is the only one I can comfortable do. I'm kind of overweight and my husband has a "man belly" so it's difficult for us to do the over the knee comfortably for either of us. And the other positions are difficult cause of my weight.
my boyfriend does it with him sitting indian style on the bed, and me bent over his lap. does this count as otk or is it dangerous in some way?
@Anonymous (January 13th 1:29 PM) - It's a modification of OTK, yes. As long as YOU are comfortable in that position, I don't see any risks in doing it that way. I'd suggest placing a pillow or blanket (something soft) between his knees and your stomach to give you some padded support, but other than that I don't see an issue with it. If you're experiencing ANY uncomfortableness that is not related to the pain of the actual spanking itself, let your boyfriend know so he can help you find a position that makes you as comfortable as possible.
Best of luck to you and your boyfriend!
-- Clint
thank you!
ps I love your blog
@Anonymous (January 21st 1:54 PM) - You're welcome, and thank you so much!
-- Clint
My husband makes me knee ontop of a wooden chair leaning over it and I frab the legs of the chair to hold onto.
This pushes my bottom in the air totally for full impact. the wood canbe uncomfortable on my knees but not much to compali about compared to the spanking LOl.
My husband used this position for the first time the other day. I prefer otk. I felt too exposed on the chair like that - and it- hurt more w/ the Lexan.
@Anonymous (February 23rd 8:34 AM) - I apologize for the late response to your comment. Sometimes they get lost in the mix.
That certainly does sound uncomfortable. It's not something I would recommend doing, however if it works for you and your husband then that's wonderful.
All the best to you.
@Anne - I'm not sure what position you're referring to. I'm assuming you're referring to the kneeling on the chair position described by the previous commenter. It certainly sounds uncomfortable and I don't blame you at all for preferring OTK over something like that.
I'm glad you've found what works best in your marriage. All the best.
-- Clint
Hi Clint,
My husband almost always has me lay flat on the bed. I've had lower back problems since childhood, and never thought about the possibility of spanking making it worse. Unfortunately, none of the other positions you suggested would work for us... We have to be in the bedroom, because we have inside dogs and I think they would get upset if we did it out in the open, plus our living room has huge windows/sliding doors all over and it feels like it is not private enough, too close to the neighbors. Our bed is really high (above my belly button) so the leaning over the bed one would not work for us, and OTK is uncomfortable because the height of the bed makes us feel unstable and wobbly, plus my husband also has a bit of a belly, leaving not enough room for me...
Is there anything you can suggest that would be a.comfortable option, with less risk to my back, than what we are doing now? I secretly prefer laying on the bed, because it keeps my bottom from being stretched tight like most other positions, but my back problems are already so bad, I don't want to do anything to worsen the problem. Thanks! I love your blog, when I discovered it I was amazed to discover how many other people were out there doing what we are doing.
Hi Anon July 22,
I also have a bad back - car accident related. Lying flat on the bed is the position that works best for us also. We have tried using a stool that fits under me on all fours on the floor, it works really well also. Last but not least, sometimes for maintenance he will sit on the couch and have me lay flat over his lap (just like the bed). Hope this helps, Lynn.
My husband has always been a traditionalist preferring me to bend over with my skirt up and bend over in the traditional school manner to touch my toes. It is always 'six of the best' across the seat of my knickers and it is every bit as painful as the canings I had at school. I naturally benefit from being caned but I also get a lot of satisfaction from being able to maintain my position for the full six strokes. This takes a lot of self-control and my husband always says, "Well done" afterwards.
Laura
@Anonymous (July 22nd 8:55 PM) - I'm terribly sorry for just getting to your comment now. I try to keep up with the comments, but every now and then I accidentally overlook one. My sincerest apologies for the late response.
Given your back problems, and your husbands "belly" (your words, not mine!), is there any way you can lie flat over his lap, where your legs and head are lying flat on the bed? Basically he would be sitting on the bed, and you'd be lying on the bed over his lap. I think this position would work well for you. I would highly recommend this position if you're able to do so.
If not, the positions Lynn described are possibilities as well.
Thank you for the kind words about the blog. There are most definitely other couples that practice DD, as you can see. I appreciate you reading and supporting LDD so very much. All the best to you.
@Lynn - Thank you for offering your advice when I clearly overlooked the previous individual's comment. I appreciate it.
@Laura - Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm glad you found what works best for your marriage. All the best to you.
-- Clint
How do i go about talking to my husband about DD. I have been wanting to try it but afraid to talk to him about it. any advice would be great. Thank you
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