10:25 PM
Learning Domestic Discipline
I (Clint) ask my wife (Chelsea) a number of questions that I think most people would want to know about her. You can read this interview on our new website by clicking here.
Posted in: LDD Interviews
LDD's Weekly Recap: July 29th - August 4th
11 years ago
21 comments:
Wonderful interview! I adore both you and your wife's blogs and have been reading obsessively for weeks now! My husband and I just started including DD in our marriage and I have your blogs to thank for properly defining and explaining it for us.
Great interview. You and Chelsea are such great role models in the Dd community. Your love for each other is so obvious and cute. Congratulations on such successful blogs. You have both really helped my husband and I with our marriage.
Clint-Love both your interviews! You both did a great job. You guys are such a great example of what a DD marriage can be and it gives everyone else hope for their own relationship. Thanks for sharing, and thank you for the shout out! I didn't expect that, but I do appreciate it!
Wow wonderful answers Chelsea :) I found it very helpful and it was great to hear more about you in a non DD related way. I think it truly helps to think of people as just people who have found a unique to them way of having a happy marriage! Also, HoH and I are new to all this but we have bed time... it helps me for all the same reasons as you and it helps us because I think it is a good idea to go to bed at the same time. It brought us closer together being in bed at the same time and I definitely feel better for all the extra sleep! Good luck to you both
My husband and I are just starting DD. I have read through both your and your wife's blogs and have found them very helpful and informative! Thank you so much! You and Chelsea are great!
Clint and Chelsea please help. I have so much to talk about. Before we married my husband spanked me. After some research a couple months ago, we decided to make our relationship closer to the principles of DD. (Married 5 yrs). I find it hard to let go and trust him. I started a blog to try and make friends and form a support group. But I am still lost. Please help me. - Becky
I don't know how to let go and trust him. Please help me. My husband has been spanking me for 7 years and just recently we decided to make it more DD focused. Whrn I get grumpy and don't surrender control without "stomping around" he gets mad at me. Am I always yo trust his decisions? What about when he changes his mind multiple times? I created a blog to try and form a support group and make friends in the DD life. Most of the time I can obey, but sometimes it is so hard. Help me please.
Both interviews were really great. I commend you both on the time and effort to get both posted. Thoughtful answers and interesting. It took thought and time to make the questions, answer them, and then to put in post form. Good job Clint and Chelsea!
I totally agree with SNP.
Chelsea - here's another way for you to look at the "strict" issue: What the people who refer to Clint as "strict" don't seem to realize, is that you have agreed to those rules so guess you're "strict" also. :) When I read any comment where people refer to Clint as "strict", I simply read that as consistent. Which is what we all want right? ;)
Thank you Clint and Chelsea for being so committed to helping others in DD. I know that you two are very helpful and supportive. As are many others in blogland.- Becky
Becky, my husband and I just started DD yesterday. I have to say I kinda feel the same way. I trust him with my life and everything dear to me, but I'm not sure how surrenduring/submitting to him is going to go for me. I am a very independent person, but I love my hubby and want to give myself to him in every way possible.
Thank you TonysDDG. Maybe we can chat some more and try to support each other on staying on the right path.
Thank you Clint. My husband and I are a few weeks into DD and we wouldn't even be doing it if not for your website. I find the posts to be very well written and extremely informative. Thanks to the links you provided, I have also been reading Chelsea's and other blogs, which I find very helpful.
Lovely addition to a lovely blog! Is that overdoing the "lovely" a bit? lol
Seriously, very good post ideas for both of you! Awesome job you did! I won't use the word 'lovely' again... for awhile!
@Anonymous (July 24th 8:38 PM) - That's very kind of you to say, thank you so very much. Congratulations on beginning a DD lifestyle! I hope the blog continues to be helpful for you both. All the best to you.
@Kristy - Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. Your support of us (and our blogs) means the world to both my wife and I. I'm so happy to hear we've helped your marriage in some capacity, and I certainly wish you both continued success in the future. All the best to you and yours.
@Cowgirl Up - Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed the interviews. Your kind words are very much appreciated as well. You're most welcome for the shout out. It's the least I could do for you after you offered your wonderful interview idea. All the best, Cowgirl Up.
@Ash - Your comment was more for my wife, but I just wanted to say thank you for your thoughts, and I'm strongly considering a bed time for my wife. I think it will really help her in the long run. All the best to you, Ash.
@TonysDDG - You're most welcome! We're both so happy we could help, and we wish you both nothing but success as you embark on your DD journey together. Thank you so much for your support, and best of luck to you going forward.
@Becky - I think a lot of women find it difficult to completely turn over all responsibilities to the husband. I've been asked this question a lot, so you're definitely not alone in how you feel. I have been asked this question so much, in fact, that I wrote a blurb about it on a FAQ post. You can read that post by following this link:
http://learningdd.blogspot.com/2012/05/faqs-changing-dynamic-edition.html
Trust, to me, is something that is earned and not given. Your husband needs to earn that trust in you, however you must also give him OPPORTUNITIES to earn it. When he makes a decision, even if you may not completely agree with his decision, let the decision play out and trust his judgment. I think you'll find that, in most cases, your husbands decision will turn out well for you and your family in the long run. Over many weeks, months, and years of this, the trust will become stronger and stronger and stronger.
Also, the LDD Network is full of supportive people with all experience levels in this lifestyle. If you're looking for support, I encourage you to join the LDD Network. That's why it was created - so we all have support in this lifestyle. I think you'd benefit a lot from all the wonderful members within.
Lastly, your husband should not be "chang[ing] his mind multiple times." Naturally this will cause confusing and prompt you to question his leadership. It's important that he make decisions and stick with them, and be consistent with all that he does in the lifestyle.
I hope things improve for you, Becky. I wish you nothing but the best of luck going forward.
-- Clint
@SNP - Thank you so much! It's refreshing to be acknowledged for how much time and effort we both put into our blogs. Thanks for noticing, and thanks for appreciating it. I'm glad you enjoyed the interviews! All the best to you, SNP.
@Cat - Your comment is more for my wife, but just wanted to quickly thank you for sharing your thoughts. Thank you! :)
@Becky - We're happy to help others so long as it's appreciated. Judging by the feedback we get, it seems most people are very appreciative. That makes it all worth our time.
@TonysDDG - Forgive me for intruding on your conversation with Becky, but I just wanted to share with you the same link I offered Becky about turning over the responsibilities to your husband. I think you'll find it helpful as well. Here it is:
http://learningdd.blogspot.com/2012/05/faqs-changing-dynamic-edition.html
I hope this helps you out. Best of luck to you.
@Joanie - Wow, that's wonderful! If the blog even brings one new couple to the lifestyle, then I'm a happy man. I'm so happy to hear that the blog has been a useful and informative resource for you and your husband. Congratulations on beginning the DD lifestyle, and thank you so very much for your support of our blogs. It means so much to both my wife and I. All the best to you, Joanie.
@Christina - Yes that's overdoing it a bit! :)
I'm glad you enjoyed the interviews. They were actually a lot of fun to do.
All the best to each one of you.
-- Clint
I would love that!
Clint, thank you for the link! It was very insightful and I hope it helps us both as we continue down this path. This is all very new to us both and so far we love it. We have a good solid marriage, but we both feel there are areas that need work and this the way to accomplish that!
@TonysDDG - You're most welcome! I'm glad it helped you out. I think we all have areas that need work, and DD is a great way to address those things. It sounds like you're already realizing that which is wonderful.
Best of luck to you as you continue with your DD journey.
-- Clint
Hmm.. Don't know where to start exactly. I was on the Internet looking to see if there was something wrong with me. I've not heard of this till two days ago, on this blog. I started on the bdsm and realized that that isn't what I've been needing, until I came across this blog. It is exactly what I feel I need in my relationship of five years. Not sure h ow to go about it though, I was in the pastin an abusive relationship, and my currant spouse says he will never beat me. He is patient and good to a fault. And believe me Ii try his patience to the tenth degree! I think there is something deep inside that knows that I need this so I continue to press his buttons. I am a very reactive woman and don't know when to shut my mouth. I also have a lot of anxiety especially at that time of the month and crave some sort of release. I have tried to express this, without saying what it is I need, but he thinks " I will like it" , so it's not really a punishment if "I like it" . But that's not it, I don't know how to explain this without sounding like a freak. I think I have read every comment on this blog , from how to " get him on board" to beginners of dd. and I must say that this interview with Chelsea would be the best way to possibly " get him on board" . No offense but some of the stuff on here, if you are pessimistic sounds kinda nuts, with religouse undertones. Like praying befor air during a lecture. I believe religion should stay out of it for my own reasons. I'm rambling a bit here, and I apologize I'm just a little overwhelmed
Oops I think I left that to long and didn't finish. I left off with feeling overwhelmed . About where to go from here, I truly don't feel like I will feel whole without a dd relationship , but at the same time, Im afraid of losing him if I bring this up. I'm afraid he will lose respect for me, not gain it. How can he repect me if I feel I need his punishment? I sounds a bit degrading when you think of it realtically. And kinda sick. So am I sick? I am also a very strong woman which makes this even more hard. Anyway I'm getting overwhelmed again so I will sign off for now. Thanks for all the insight hopefully I'll get through this. Any advice would be aperectiated. Bye for now
Confused and uncertain
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