The most effective way to modify a behavior is by administering a punishment as soon as possible after the unwanted, dangerous or detrimental behavior is displayed. I think we all understand that fundamental principle within a Domestic Discipline relationship. Holding the wife accountable immediately after the infraction is made will yield the quickest and most immediate change for the better in the behavior.
Spanking as recommended on Learning Domestic Discipline is a process. It's a process for many reasons (which are given on the spanking posts) and can take quite some time to conduct. As such, this can cause a couple to hold off on conducting the spanking for a period of time until a more convenient time presents itself. There isn't anything necessarily wrong with that, and it's rather common. The spanking process will still be effective even when done several hours after the infraction was committed.
There is an alternate option to consider, however, that offers a more immediate consequence to any given infraction - swats. Swats are not the same as a spanking (as described on this blog). They're similar, but they are done without the lecturing aspect of a spanking, and are done without an elaborate comforting session afterward. Those two differences distinguish swats from spanking.
Swats are when the husband strikes the wife on the buttocks using his hand and his hand only, in a "right then and there" fashion. No other implement is used. Swats are recommended to be done over the knee, although they can be administered when the wife is standing straight up as well. In any swat situation, the recommended number of swats is between 8-10, varying on the severity of the infraction. Swats are done IMMEDIATELY after an infraction is made, right then and there. It's essentially a quick "spanking" (without the lecture, extensive comforting, and "process" of spanking) to immediately address and curb the negative behavior of the wife.
To illustrate the dynamic, I'll explain a brief (very brief) mock scenario in which swats would be used/effective:
A husband and wife are enjoying a quiet night together watching their favorite television program. At some point the wife realizes she left the garage door open and cusses out loud, breaking the "no cussing" rule of the household.
"(Expletive), I think I left the garage door up. I need to go close it. Just a minute. I'll be right back."
"Hold on - before you do that, I heard a cuss word in there. Come here. We'll take care of it right now," the husband immediately replies.
After some brief discussion, the wife reluctantly lies on her husbands lap in the over the knee spanking position, right there in the living/family room, and is administered 10 swats on the buttocks. Then, once conducted, she gets up, the couple embraces for a moment, she's reminded why the swats were necessary, and she goes to shut the garage door. The couple then carries on with their day. Done deal.
In this mock scenario, the swats address the cussing issue. The decision of whether or not to punish the wife for leaving the garage door open is ultimately determined by the husband.
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Swats are effective, however they are NOT as effective as a spanking in getting any given behavior corrected long term. They can be effective for long term correction of a problem, however it takes numerous swat sessions and meticulous consistency from the husband to achieve those long term results. Spankings should be administered for the most serious offenses, but for "work in progress" situations (such as breaking a difficult swearing habit, for example), swats offer a means of addressing an issue very quickly and help the wife remember to follow the rules at all times.
Immediate swats are not always possible, understandably. The couple may have children, there may be guests at the house, etc. Swats are not recommended to be done when others are present. But, when and where possible, immediate swats can be effective if done correctly and consistently.