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Throughout this blog I've indicated that rubbing the buttocks immediately after a spanking isn't recommended, and why. There are times, however, where rubbing the buttocks is beneficial to the entire spanking process. The act of rubbing the buttocks has come up a few times in the comments recently, so I felt now was a good time to discuss the rubbing aspect of a spanking. This entry will address rubbing before, during, and after the spanking process.
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RUBBING BEFORE A SPANKING
Rubbing the buttocks before a spanking isn't recommended simply because it isn't necessary. This would do nothing to aid in the spanking process and holds no purpose when it comes to correcting the behavior. The wife may request this as a means of calming her down if she's nervous, or to feel as though the husband cares more, and in these instances it can be done if the husband feels it necessary, however it's not recommended to rub the buttocks before a spanking. It's best to remain in "discipline mode" (for lack of a better term) to convey the message to the wife that this is a punishment situation.
RUBBING DURING A SPANKING
Throughout the entire spanking process, there are numerous recommended times for the husband to rub the buttocks of his wife, with the only exception being a beginner level spanking. With beginner level spankings, rubbing the buttocks isn't necessary at any point during the spanking process since it's a relatively mild spanking that poses no threat of bruising (unless strikes are done at or near full force, which is not recommended). However spanking at the intermediate or advanced level or any variation thereof, there are times during the process where rubbing IS recommended.
The first is rubbing immediately after the warm up spanking, just before the "main" spanking is done. It's recommended the husband rub the buttocks for approximately 2-3 minutes at this point, and there are numerous reasons for that. The first reason is the rubbing at this point will subdue the sting a bit. The warm up spanking isn't intended to be the correcting influence, but rather intended to "prepare" the buttocks for the remainder of the spanking. The pain from the warm up should strictly be on the surface of the buttocks, and the rubbing will reduce the intensity of the sting. This reduction in intensity isn't detrimental to the correction of the behavior since the purpose of the warm up spanking is to prevent bruising only, not to correct the behavior.
The second reason rubbing after the warm up is recommended is that it prepares the nerves for the remainder of the spanking. I touched on this in the previous paragraph - this will prevent bruising. The nerves are brought to the surface of the buttocks during the warm up, and rubbing at this point will slightly reduce the inflammation of the nerves, but keep them on the surface. This will keep the "main" spanking painful, but it will also reduce the risk of bruising.
The third reason is that the rubbing comforts the wife in the middle of this process. It's important that husbands keep their wives' emotions in mind at all times. Not only is she dealing with the pain in her buttocks, but she's also dealing with feelings of guilt, remorse, stress, among others. Rubbing in this moment, even if only for 2-3 minutes, can really calm the wife and relax her, as well as help her feel loved, cared for, and protected. Those things are important in any marriage dynamic.
Spanking at the intermediate level or the advanced level also has breaks where rubbing the buttocks is recommended between sets of strikes for approximately two minutes. This rubbing is done for a lot of the same reasons as the rubbing after a warm up spanking is done. This is a calming influence and a loving gesture that reassures the wife that her husband cares, and is in complete control of himself. This also slightly reduces the intensity of the sting BRIEFLY, which helps the wife absorb the remainder of the spanking. Rubbing at this point stimulates the nerves, and this is important so the nerves do not become numb to the remainder of the spanking. As painful as the spanking process is, it's important that the wife not become numb to the strikes. If that happens, the spanking loses it's overall effectiveness.
RUBBING AFTER A SPANKING
Rubbing the buttocks immediately after a spanking isn't something I recommend husbands do, nor allow their wives to do. The key part of that sentence is "immediately after." There are times after the spanking where rubbing the buttocks is a good thing which I'll explain in just a moment, but immediately afterward is not recommended.
It's a very common, second nature reaction for wives to want to rub their buttocks after a spanking. It's completely understandable and completely normal. However doing this can be detrimental to the ultimate goal of correcting the initial unwanted, dangerous or detrimental behavior. Rubbing the buttocks after the spanking will reduce the intensity of the sting, which is counter-productive to the purpose of a spanking. The intense, burning/stinging sensation is the primary deterrent to any repeat in behavior, so the idea is to keep that sensation intense as long as possible to serve as the strongest reminder possible for the wife to get her behavior corrected. It's this exact pain that gets the wife thinking before she acts in the future. Depending on the severity of the spanking, this initial intense stinging/burning sensation will naturally subdue on it's own anywhere between 30-60 minutes after the spanking, which is the ideal time frame.
Earlier I suggested there IS an appropriate time after a spanking to begin rubbing the buttocks. That time is after that intense initial burning/stinging sensation from a spanking goes away. Generally speaking that's somewhere between 30-60 minutes after the spanking, but the wife will still be in pain and/or uncomfortable for several hours. Having said that, if the wife requests to rub her buttocks, or requests her husband to rub her buttocks after the spanking, I recommend this only be allowed/done after 60 minutes of time has elapsed after the final strike of the spanking. This time frame ensures the intense sensation is gone, and thus the rubbing now acts as a comforting gesture rather than a pain-reduction tactic.
I've stated repeatedly on this website that the comforting after a spanking is very important, and the rubbing of the buttocks can be part of the comforting process, however I only recommend it be a part of that process after a minimum of 60 minutes time has elapsed to achieve the best overall long-term results.
It's not easy to refrain from rubbing the buttocks after a spanking. If this is a problem for a couple, I recommend there be a punishment administered to the wife if the husband does not allow rubbing afterward. What that punishment is would ultimately be determined by the head of the household.