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36 comments:
Dropping by to say, "Happy LOL Day!"
Well, not quite a lurker...have commented once, on one of your earlier posts. It is because of your blogs that my husband and I now live the DD lifestyle.
A saying in our house is...'What does Clint say about it?' (sometimes as the wife..I don't like what Clint says about it) So anyway, I do follow you everytime you post...so here is my official hello..hello :)
Well I am a lurker and we have started DD just recently. I must say it is nice to have this site and know that I am not the only one who needs the attitude adjusted some times, well this week has actually been a bad one. But hey now I am back on track and my goal is to not get into trouble again. Thanks to the cane link my HOH ordered some stuff from there and I can tell you it was OUCH!!!!!!!!!!! I think that I learned to never tell your HOH no on sentences, corner time, or time out. Anyway it is nice meeting you and I am wondering if there is anyone out there from Western Washington, The state. LOL If there is I would not mind meeting anyone if they are up to it. I have no DD friends and it is kinda lonely when that happens, and it does not help that my HOH and I are kind of new to this. We are by no means young I mean we are in our 50's but hey better late than never to get the attitude adjusted you know?
TAK From Denmark.
You inspire me and my husband a lot.Thank you...
We have been happily married for 25 years, I wouldn't say we are a dd couple but my husband is in charge and he does have a cane! We have a lot of love and laughter in our lives and respect each other totally. If my husband decides to discipline me it is a very quick caning on my bare bottom,nothing cruel always with love and always deserved.
I'm at lurker who has just recently come out of hiding and started her own blog! Lol! I've commented on your blog once or twice before and you're right, I have found the bloggers of this community to be very friendly and welcoming. Thanks again for all the information you share on LDD
Hi Clint,
Happy LOL 7 day! I'm a regular visitor to your blog, and always enjoy your posts, even though we don't practise DD.
Hugs,
Hermione
Happy LOL day!!!
Hi, my name is Amy and I am a lurker...
I came across your site quite by accident. My boyfriend had made a few "spanking" comments to which I assumed he meant as sex play. Being unfamiliar with what all that might mean, I googled...and your blog came up. Boy was I surprised and curious about what domestic discipline represented. He and I have both come from the sad end of 20 yr marriages and as I read about the dd dynamics, I began to wonder if it could possibly be a reasonable answer to some of the major struggles that presented in our previous marriages. We are having none of the past issues but, it sounded like a way to be proactive. When I presented the idea to him, he was surprised because he never even meant to imply a sexual spanking, let alone discipline. Well, we have put these concepts into action. It was awkward at first but he has now progressed to full confidence...as have I. For some reason, he has noted...my mouth seems to run much less when I am over his lap and he is talking and smacking. Its true, I feel I actually hear better the points he is trying to convey...and always for the better of me and/or us. I can't believe how much this man cares and how wise he is and how wonderful it is to be able to trust someone with that level of your well being. Anyway, what a surprise all this has been in my life..So, thank you Clint and all who blog on this subject!
Hi Clint,
We haven't been practicing for very long and your blog has had so much impact in helping us get started. We read several blogs and they are helpful and entertaining, but yours is by far the best informational source we have found. Thank you and keep up the great work! And I wouldn't mind if you deleted the parts about silent spankings!
Thanks! I think I've read your entire blog, & Chelsea's.. Some of it two or three times in the past month or so. You helped bring it up to my husband and I shared your blog with him also. We are a work in progress, but we are getting to what works for us :)
Thanks for all your help and thanks for LOL7 :)
Could not let the day pass without wishing you a great LOL Day. This is the blog that put me on the path to know about DD and find most all of the DD blogs (Besides Bonnie's list!) Wealth of information and alway thoughtful and respectful replies to your commentors.
All the best to you and your wife!
Hi- and thanks for all You and Chelsea have done for our community. We are prayin for your family and the upcoming difficulties.
Happy LOL Day Clint! Your blog was the first I lurked on and the first I commented as me on. You were so nice and encouraging in your responses. So it's your fault that my 'big mouth' is commenting on other blogds as well as yours. ;) Have a wonderful day!
Blessings,
Cat
Happy LOL day!
I really find being able to see that I am not alone in needing discipline very supportive. It is always reassuring to see that my feelings are like those of many other wives who have the good fortune to have a HoH who improves their behavior. This is particularly so when I have misbehaved like athe weekend when my behavior was very much below par. As I stood in the corner with my behind deservedly striped by the cane and then later as I did some lines I was able to take the learning and use it to go forward more positively. Although I obviosuly don't enjoy being punished my HoH does make use of new ideas and this helps keep me on my toes. I received a mouth soaping for the first time three weeks ago and I certainly won't be repeating that misbehavior. So keep the thoughts on new discipline methods going. Best wishes.
I am a lurker and have not posted on your blog before. Thank you for the effort and time you put in to educating others in the DD lifestyle. My husband and I have been practising since August and while we had a good marriage previously, this was the missing link! I appreciate that your blog is non-judgemental and factual based on your experience and knowledge. We have both learned so much from you and Chelsea. Thank you for sharing Clint!
Kath
Hi,
When I came across your blog several months ago, I was completely shocked! But I kept coming back because I found it very interesting. While I doubt we will ever practice dd, your blog has taught me a lot about respect and communication. Just wanted to say thank you!! You have made a difference in my marriage and I'm so grateful I stumbled across your site!
-Noelle
Hi Clint- I have lurked on your blog, and your wife's blog, for a long time. I want to formally thank you both for putting all this information out here. My husband and I played around with spanking and kind of DD for several months, but just recently made it official. We ARE a DD couple now and things couldn't be better! In fact it was your recent post about consent that led to a serious discussion and we both formally gave consent to the DD lifestyle. It's a little scary for me, but I completely trust my husband so I know I'll be okay. I owe so much to you and Chelsea. I printed out so much information from both your blogs for my husband to read. At first, when I brought up the subject he was totally against it. Slowly over several months he has come to appreciate the many changes in our lives. I want you to know that the things I printed out from your blogs was the tipping point for my husband. I couldn't have done it without you and Chelsea and I will be forever grateful to you both. I wish you both all the best! Maybe someday we can join the network!
Queenie
Hello from Canada
We have been following your blog for about 6 months now and wanted to let you know how much my husband and I appreciate that you took the time to put this blog together and continue to add helpful information! We have been married for 20 years and only the last year as a dd couple. My husband has posted questions and we are so thankful that Clint takes the time to answer and guide. You and your wife are a definite inspiration and we are truly glad your blog is here.
Thankful Lurker
Hi! I visit often and just wanted to say Happy LOL day!
Hi and happy LOL Day.
Prefectdt
Happy LOL Day!!
Hi, I'm a lurker(with such lurkers guilt) I've been reading here from the beginning and was one of the first people to sign up for LDD network. I'm a wife wishing for a DD relationship. I'm really trying to stop hiding and put myself out there, so hopefully you'll see me again :) Thank you for all you do.
-Caitlin
Happy LOL Day! I have only made a small handful of comments here, but have been reading for quite some time so thought I would drop by and say Hi.
@Christina - Happy LOL Day to you too! It's always a good day in the life of a blogger. :)
@M3 - A friendly "hello!" to you as well! It's always wonderful to hear that LDD has brought a new couple to the lifestyle. I hope the lifestyle has brought nothing but happiness and harmony to your marriage.
It's pretty funny my name comes up from time to time in your household as well. I'm honored. :)
All the best to you M3. Thank you for reading, and thank you for commenting.
@Anonymous (November 8th 9:48 PM) - You're absolutely right - it is better late than never. There's no time like the present to begin living the lifestyle, and I'm glad things are working out for the best in your marriage. Thank you so much for reading LDD, and for sharing your story. I appreciate you taking the time to comment. Good luck in finding some DD friends in your area. All the best to you.
@Anonymous (November 8th 10:15 PM) - Those are very kind words. Thank you so much. It's nice to know LDD has some readers in Denmark! Thanks for taking the time to comment and letting me know you're there. :)
@Anonymous (November 9th 2:17 AM) - As long as what you're doing makes you both happy, then that's all that matters. Thanks for sharing your story, thanks for reading, and thank you for taking the time to comment. All the best to you.
My Love's beautiful lady - Congratulations on starting your blog! It sounds like you know this already, but you'll definitely find plenty of support within the DD community. It's great to have people out there that understand what you're experiencing. Thanks for commenting, and best of luck with your blog. All the best to you.
@Hermione - Happy LoL 7 Day to you as well! I appreciate you frequently stopping by to see what's new, even if you don't practice DD. I'm happy to have you as a reader. All the best to you, Hermione.
rebekah - Thank you! Happy LOL Day to you as well.
-- Clint
@Amy - Wow, that's a wonderful story Amy. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm sorry to hear of your past marital struggles, but I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. It sounds like you've met a great man, and it also sounds like you both are well on your way to a solid relationship together. I'm glad you've found the blog helpful, and I wish you nothing but the best on your domestic discipline journey with the new man in your life.
Thank you for reading, and thank you for stopping by to share your story. All the best to you.
@Kristy - Wow, those are very kind words. I'm very humbled, thank you. I'm glad you find the blog helpful to your marriage. I think there are plenty of other women who share your same feelings on silent spankings, too. :)
Thank you for reading LDD and taking the time to comment. It's great to hear from you, and good luck to you going forward with the lifestyle.
@Elle - I think we're all a "work in progress." Lol. It's wonderful to hear that my wife and I's blogs are making an impact in your life, and in your marriage. I wish you the best of luck in finding what works for you both.
Thank you for being a loyal reader of LDD.
@SNP - Your words are very kind and I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. I wish you a great LOL Day as well, and nothing but the best in your marriage going forward.
@Pooky - Thank you, Pooky. We're honored to be a part of this great community and we hope to be around for a while. Thank you for the prayers as well. That's very thoughtful and kind. All the best to you.
@Cat - Well I'm glad my blog has given you the courage to open your "big mouth" (your words, not mine!). You have very sound advice for readers and I'm sure they all find your advice very helpful. Thanks for being such a loyal reader of LDD. It means a lot.
@Rogue - Thanks Rogue! Happy LOL Day to you as well. :)
@Anonymous (November 9th 8:53 AM) - It certainly is nice to know that we're not alone in living this lifestyle. Support is always a good thing, and I'm glad you've found that throughout the blogging community. Thanks for sharing your experience, and thanks for reading the LDD blog. I wish you nothing but the best going forward.
@Kath - Hello Kath! It's great to hear from you! I always love hearing about how the lifestyle has helped a couple in their marriage. It always strengthens my already very strong believe in the lifestyle, so thank you for sharing your story. I wish you continued good health and happiness as you and your spouse move on into the future. All the best.
@Noelle - I'm glad you stumbled across the site as well! Perhaps DD will one day be a part of your marriage, perhaps it won't - but the important thing is that you're improving yourself and your marriage every single day in the best way you know how. Keep up the good work. Thank you for finding the time in your day to stop by LDD from time to time. All the best to you, Noelle.
@Queenie - Congratulations on bringing domestic discipline into your marriage! That's obviously a HUGE step, and I'm so happy to hear you're seeing the benefits of living this way. My wife and I are honored that our blogs have impacted your life in a positive way, and we hope we can continue helping you with the various nuances of living the lifestyle. That's what we're here for. I appreciate you taking the time to share your story.
Good luck to you!
-- Clint
@Thankful Lurker - Hello from the United States, from a thankful blogger! Your comment is so very kind and I appreciate you taking the time to share it. If our advice and our blogs help you and your spouse find happiness and harmony in your marriage, then we consider them to be a resounding success. Thank you for sharing your story. Stay warm up there in Canada! Best of luck to you in all that you do.
@Lynn - Thank you, and happy LOL Day to you as well! I'm so thankful to have you as a reader. All the best to you, Lynn.
@SPANKEDHORTIC II - Hello, and happy LOL Day to you as well! Thanks for reading LDD. I really appreciate your support.
@Zoe - Thank you, and happy LOL Day to you as well!
@Caitlin - I hope I see you again as well, Caitlin. I commend you for having the courage to speak up. I can tell it wasn't easy for you, but I'm so glad you did. Perhaps your husband will entertain the idea of bringing DD into your marriage at some point down the road. You never know. You have to stay positive with these things! :)
We'd love to have you in the network (or active again in the network) if you ever want to come back. Whatever you decide to do, the blog will always be here for you if you need support. Thanks again for speaking up and sharing your comment. All the best.
@Roz - Thank you, and happy LOL Day to you as well! It's nice to hear from you again, Roz. Thanks for being a loyal reader of LDD. Your support truly means a lot to me. I'm glad you stopped by to say hello. :)
All the best to you.
-- Clint
Hi Clint! I just wanted to say thank you for your blog! Found your site a couple of months ago and I believe it has helped save my marriage. My husband and I are 36, have been together for 11 yrs, and married for 6 yrs. We were best friends while dating, but our relationship quickly deteriorated after marrying. There was an insane amount of stress and grief that contributed after losing my mother and 5 other loved ones along with our jobs and home all within a short period of time and we started taking it out on each other. I was also left in charge of virtually everything and really resented it even though I'm naturally a take charge person. We got stuck in a pattern we couldn't break out of. We tried counseling, but the ever practical advice of walking away til I've calmed down enough to discuss the situation rationally doesn't work for me. When I'm angry, you are going to see things my way right then and there, and you're going to do something about it right now! Well, I've finally gotten what I wanted but not quite the way I wanted it. Lol! Or isn't it? I timidly hinted at wanting to incorporate DD into our marriage and my husband surprised me by being all for it and studying up on it on his own. He's recently given me a list of times he had wanted to put me over his knee. My husband does put me over his knee right then and there before things get too heated. The only thing that gets more heated is my behind. Arguments rarely escalate to to hurtful words and when they do it is dealt with and forgiven right away. I have a new respect for my husband who has stepped up and taken charge, and I now have my best friend back. Thanks again!
Ok so I am at a crossroad and not sure what to do. I love this lifestyle it has done great things for my whole family not just me and my hoh. Here is the issue when we started this he was doing great with taking charge and helping out and just being on top of everything and now I feel like he has the right to punish me for being out of line or not doing what he wants or letting the house go but he can just sit back let me do it all and handle evetthing in our lives and when I get upset about it I get in trouble. It makes me sencond guess my choice to live in the dd lifestyle. Here is something that happened. We went out the other night and stayed out late I had to work the next day. I got up went to work even being tried. My hoh works night's so he selpt all day and worke up about an hour before I got off work and instead of thinking hey I kept my wife out late last night and she had to work today so I am going to do dishes and help her cause I slept most the day he sat in bed and watched tv. This is just one thing that has happened do I have a right to feel this way or am I over reacted. I do something I am not happy about I got really mad at him and went off. After I calmed down we talked about it but it is hard for me just to say ok I believe you will change with out seeing it. Any thoughts would be great.
@Hotrod 10.Nov 3:30p
If you feel your husband is being unfair or not holding up his part of your relationship, yes you do have a right to be disappointed and possibly even angry about it. However, you need to be respectful when communicating that disappointment and anger. A DD relationship does not mean you lose your voice or your identity - you are still equal partners in your relationship but with different roles. I would encourage you to find a time when the two of you are rested and have a good block of time alone to sit down and have an honest discussion. Calmly and respectfully discuss why you were upset and what each of you expect from your relationship and for your family. Being the Head of the Household is more than just sitting around doing whatever he wants. It comes with a great deal of responsibility – he is the caretaker, protector, and leader of the family. He should be an example and hold himself to a higher standard of behavior and accountability. Hope this helps.
Blessings on your journey,
Cat
Just wanted to drop in and say happy lol day, even though its a day past the event. We always enjoy your blog.
Happy LOL Day!
:)
~Todd and Suzy
Hey Clint,
I've been reading your blog for over a year, and really enjoyed it.
@Anonymous (November 10th 12:39 PM) - First, I'm terribly sorry to hear about your losses. It definitely sounds like you and your husband have been through a lot. My goodness. I commend you both for sticking with each other through the toughest of times. That says a lot about the character of both of you, and about the strength of your marriage. Great job.
If LDD has helped contribute to getting your marriage back on track, I'm incredibly honored. It takes two committed partners, however, so don't sell yourselves short on the credit. I love hearing success stories like yours, and again, if this little blog helped to get things back on track for you two, then I consider it a success.
Thanks for reading and sharing your story. Your support means a lot. Best of luck to you going forward.
@hotrod - I don't have much to add to what Cat said to you. She's right - it's all about communication in a situation like this. Unfortunately you can't MAKE your HoH do anything he isn't comfortable doing..he has to want this lifestyle just as much as you do for it to work efficiently and effectively.
I would suggest having him read the "Importance of Consistency" post here on the blog. You can find it by following this link:
http://learningdd.blogspot.com/2011/08/importance-of-consistency.html
It's a common problem among DD couples, so don't feel alone in your frustration. I wish you the best of luck in getting past this problem.
@Jim - Thank you, Jim. I appreciate you reading (and contributing a great guest post!). Your support means a lot to both my wife and I.
@Todd and Suzy - Thank you!
@Sara - Wow, over a year is wonderful! Thank you so much for your support. I hope the blog has brought much happiness and harmony in your home/marriage. All the best to you.
-- Clint
I have been reading your blog for quite a few months, and think it's wonderful how many you have helped incorporate this special, intimate, strong marriage DD lifestyle. Even with all of your wonderful tips and entries, I just can't seem to get up the courage to ask my husband about doing it. I just know it would help be not always "push the envelope" I certainly don't want to do anything that would harm or disrespect what my husband and I have.........we are strong, but it would help me be better...........Thanks for all of your hard work
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